One Question To Ask Yourself Before He Proposes
With Valentines Day looming, the stores are full of items to buy your special someone. Lots of women will get flowers, boxes of candy, and sentimental cards from the one that they love. Many will get a small jewelry box holding a beautiful diamond ring attached with a question of commitment and moving their relationship forward.
Being proposed to is such a memorable occasion for anyone. My husband surprised me with a traditional military saber arch with him kneeling at the end, with ring in hand, and a simple question that changed my life forever. Even if he wasn’t the one for me, it would have been hard to say no to such a proposal. Accepting it was truly the best choice I have ever made.
Unfortunately, for many, the joy of this event disappears as the hype of the wedding dies down and real life begins. All too often, women forget about another important question they should have answered before they were proposed to: “Is he the one?”
All too many couples today are “sliding” instead of “deciding” in their relationships. They meet and like each other well enough to go out a few times. When no one better shows up, they continue the relationship. After a year or so of this, they decide they’ve gotten along well enough, and maybe should more their relationship to the next level and move in together. Eventually they marry for the same reason: moving the relationship forward is easier than moving on to the right relationship. But did they ever ask, “Is this the right person for me?” Often they do not, and wonder why the marriage falls apart.
It’s hard to imagine, but studies show those who live together before marriage actually have a higher divorce rate. How is this possible? I believe it is because of the way people choose their marital partners nowadays. Instead of deciding on who to marry based on compatibility and future goals, couples now slide into marriage more as a matter of default.
This doesn’t have to be you. As you wait for him to pop the question, take time to an equally important question. Decide if he really is the right one for you. It will make all the difference in how you remember his proposal ten years from now.
Is it possible to answer the question, “Is he the one?” Your heart is fluttering too fast to make sense of it, and your friends and family all are biased. I recommend looking for an outside, impartial source to help guide you in answering this question. Compatibility tests combined with an honest evaluation from you is a great place to start. Remember, you can’t really control when he proposes, but you can make the effort to ensure you make the right choice when he does.



